But painful as it is, at least such questions sharpen the process of elimination.
They agreed they would start with Mass at Westminster Cathedral.
But they both spotted each other praying in the Lady Chapel beforehand.
After eight months of courtship they were engaged and then married. Of course, Clare and James’s story sounds a bit too good to be true and you may remain sceptical.
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She was slightly older, a recent convert to Catholicism and was still considering her vocation.
After a period of discernment, Clare returned from a pilgrimage in Rome having realised that her vocation was marriage and motherhood, not religious life.
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