I was fresh out of a relationship, breakup wounds still searing.
Dating one person at a time
And, since I don't have a top-notch memory, it also requires keeping a handy list in my phone.
The logic behind multi-dating isn’t rooted so much in the need to distract oneself with a bunch of dudes following a breakup (although it totally can be) as it is in what men have long called "playing the field.” And, it's certainly not a new concept.
Tell him you won’t date him while he’s seeing other women. He might say, “I can’t commit right now.” You’re not asking him to.
You’re just requiring that while he’s dating you, he’s dating you and you alone. ” Tell him, “I want to give you my full attention because I value and respect you.
“I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship,” she explains.
“I was ready to get back out there, but I definitely wasn't looking for anything ‘real.’ Just people to spend time with, drink cocktails with, and get naked with.”“Rotations allow you to date other people at the same time, giving you perspective on the dating process,” says April Masini, relationship expert and author of the column, Ask April.
When someone is dating multiple people and not focusing on you, time is passing by.
If you’re dating a guy for two months and he is still not exclusive with you, you need to take a sober look at how you’re using your precious dating time.
The last time I saw him, I asked him if we could define our relationship. I decided that everything was probably okay until yesterday when my brother went to a coffee shop and saw him with another girl.
In response, he started talking, but somehow didn’t really say anything, and I got the feeling he was probably seeing someone else. Everything was still so new between us, so I let the subject drop. I’m afraid to bring this up with him because the conversation didn’t go well the last time; he’s obviously not ready to be exclusive with me. My friend, you are an unwitting victim of the new culture that I call “the Tinder Revolution.” Although it’s always been possible to see more than one person at a time, technology – and Tinder, where one swipes right or left to meet or reject another – is just one app of many that has made it much easier for us to encounter, get-to-know, and “communicate” with multiple people simultaneously.
At a minimum, it is a waste of your time, as more likely than not, non-exclusive relationships peter out. It is rude and disrespectful to be subject to such behavior. Dating someone while they’re dating other people is the same thing.