I’ve met plenty of people who don’t have formal education who are incredibly well read.It’s not a prerequisite, having a piece of paper or going to an institution.”Decades of research has shown that couples tend to be similar in a variety of ways, including age, social attitudes, intelligence, attractiveness, education, race, ethnicity, political attitudes, mental health, even height. National Bureau of Economic Research found that husband-and-wife couples were more likely in 2005 than 1960 to have similar levels of education.Adam Shalaby included sapiosexuality on his Ok Cupid profile alongside his age, 39, and his hobbies: making his own sourdough, attending art openings, taking photos with a fisheye lens and conceptual Halloween costumes.
Lindsay Gonder, 33, says she always swipes left on — ignores — self-proclaimed sapiosexuals.
She started seeing the label on Tinder a year ago and doesn’t like what it implies: the pressure to perform “being smart” in order to appear attractive to someone else. ” says Gonder, who works at a Toronto university and is straight.
This is called assortative mating and likely has both a genetic and social component, though the actual mechanism is still unclear. At New Jersey-based Monmouth University, psychology professor Gary Lewandowski recently conducted a survey of 800 Americans, asking what level of intelligence was most desirable in a partner.
Most (51 per cent) wanted a partner to be equally as smart.
A smaller group (39 per cent) wanted someone even smarter.
Just a tiny proportion (3 per cent) wanted someone less smart than them.
According to his Tinder profile, Liam Nelson, 26, likes good music and good food. He knows it’s entirely subjective.“It’s no different from saying, ‘I’m attracted to brunettes.’ It’s not some sort of strict rule.
To Nelson, who is straight and works as a recruiter in Toronto, this means not necessarily a woman’s IQ but her emotional maturity and open-mindedness.
Of course, there’s a difference between finding something attractive and defining a sexual orientation by it.