Geek dating tips

In hindsight, I feel like there are other things I could have said or done to end the conversation sooner, but that’s only now that I know I wasn’t able to end it without confrontation.It might be useful in general to know how to stop an inappropriate interaction like this in the future, so what would you have done? I’m at the point where I would like to have a low-stress check-in about how we’re both feeling regarding exclusivity and commitment.I know it can be fun to send a couple silly messages back and forth when you see your friends on these sites without making it weird, but I don’t think this is that.

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I’m really struggling to find the right words to initiate this conversation, because everything that pops into my head has strong overtones of “PLEASE LOVE ME FOREVER” and “I’m putting all my hopes and dreams on you despite only having known you for 10 weeks or so”…

and those are NOT the kinds of conversations I want to have.

It has been ten years since my last relationship (I’m in my early30s) and I haven’t been on so much as a date since then.

While I was in my hermit state I vacillated between “I don’t really want a partner anyway” (a big fat lie) and “You’re not worth a relationship.” Basically the idea of being involved with someone in a romantic way seemed to be something that just wasn’t in the cards for me, ever. Now, though, that I’ve started being around people socially, it’s starting to seem…not so insane.

His message implied that he was going to ask me out “until he realized who I was,” which made me immediately uncomfortable.

Dude, if you realized that, why did you message me anyway and tell me that?I’m sure I should communicate that I feel uncomfortable chatting with a coworker on a dating site, so do you have any scripts for that?Or would it be better to just block him and pretend it never happened?Like maybe it’s not out of the realm of possibility anymore, at least not when I think about it in an abstract way.But when it comes to a practical way – joining a dating site, talking to guys at social events, whatever – I can’t seem to break that bubble of “Why even bother? ” Even just writing this part of the letter made me feel embarrassed and silly.It’s frustrating and embarrassing for me that I feel so lost as to how to bring this up.

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