That's probably why he took so long to ask you out in the first place, even after all them in-your-face signs you were using.
The word "commitment" is enough to send some men running for the hills.
A prime example: asking too many “Where do you see us in five years? You see it on those dating shows all the time: a couple is happily rock climbing, the woman suddenly asks something like, “Do you want to have kids some day?
” and the guy looks like he’s been hit with a Taser. While it’s odd when you consider that most men, like most women, have marriage and children as a goal for their lives, I think it comes down to biology: Men just have a greater natural impulse to have more partners than women do.
I don’t believe those guys have been tricked or manipulated. So what are the qualities and behaviors “good guys” looking to be in a long-term relationship are seeking in women?
Men ultimately want long-term, exclusive relationships — some at 20 years old, some at 30, almost all by 40 — and if you ask a married guy why he’s with his wife, unless he’s Ice T, he won’t say just “her butt.” He’ll say it was her intelligence, her humor, her values, her potential as a good mother, and the fact that she just makes him feel relaxed and loved.
Before we get into what these qualities are, can you shed some light on who the “good guys” are?
“Good guys” are the types of men who aren’t hoping for life to be an extended fraternity party, who don’t want only sex and who don’t need to be tricked into long-term relationships.We have an off switch and when we use it, everything completely shuts down.Girls struggle to understand this and sometimes think that we are lying - we're not.Think of Homer Simpson with the monkey clapping two hi-hats together while doing back-flips. Looks don't last forever - It may be cliché but it's true.Although we might have sex with a girl for her looks, that alone will never make us look at that girl as relationship-worthy. Men, like women, crave attention and like to get affection from you.It is women who display qualities like this that charm men, pure and simple.